You want to hire me for your event, and the first thing you want to know is “how much is it going to cost me/the company?”
I get that question frequently, so I want to address it directly.
Remember, though, I'm not a discount store! However, I do take entertainment budgets into account, so that I don't "break the bank" for my shows.
Fees for entertainment can be as varied and diverse as entertainers themselves. However, most of us set up our fees based on a number of elements that apply to most events/programs. Below are some questions you might be prepared to answer to get a solid quote for your next event:
1. What type of program is it? (Private party, after dinner corporate event, charity fundraiser, etc.)
As a guideline, I recommend having a budgeted amount for your event. I always ask potential clients what they've budgeted, and work from there. My goal is a good experience, not to rob you blind! My fee is always inclusive, so there are no hidden costs or "extras" that would suddenly appear.
Many professional performers sometimes have a bare minimum fee of $300 or more for any single event (private or corporate), while more famous entertainers fetch fees of $5,000 or more per event.
If you are having a small private party of only 10-20 adults, I still recommend budgeting between $300-400. (Once again here, I’m speaking about adult party entertainment, and not children’s birthday party entertainment.)
If any of these numbers seem way out of your budget, not to worry; we can talk about the possibilities!
The video (above) is from a recent show where I did Handwriting Analysis (Graphology) as part of the show. I don't do this at many shows, but this group seemed just right for it!
Of course, the analysis is very light, with a little comedy added. It truly is amazing how much of someone's personality comes through in their handwriting. I've been analyzing handwriting for over 20 years, and it never fails to amaze!
And about handwriting...
Handwriting is a sort of "brainwriting," in which the mind of the writer reveals significant characteristics of themselves through micromuscle movements in the hand. The way that letters and numbers are shaped are interpreted by the graphologist (that's me!) as indicators of personality, as well as potential action.
Over 1500 U.S. companies use Graphology to screen job applicants or solve employee problems. Police officers, lawyers, and judges use it to assess the character of witnesses and determine the origin of written documents. Some agencies even use it to uncover the motivations and identities of hostile individuals.
I use it often, and I love it!
You are about to read something that will either be a game-changer for you....or a waste of time.
Are you up for it?
I haven't written a blog post for several months. We have moved, adjusted to a new house, and my traveling schedule for shows and parties has been very busy.
But that's not the only reason why I haven't written.
Truth: I have nothing negative, sensational or overtly critical or falsely profound to say. I finally realized that I was comparing myself to so much else around (95% of it being blah), and forgetting what was in front of me And that makes this a dumb post.
As I see the Facebook feeds, read the news and talk with so many people every day during their readings and hypnosis sessions, I have discovered that ordinary life is suddenly perceived by the majority of the population as a curse.
I want you to re-think that for a moment.
Ordinary life is an incredible blessing. Yes, it is the world of work, home/family life, crashing at the end of the day into a sleep that opens the door for another round of the same. But it's beautiful. It makes life possible.
The ancient monks had a word - ACEDIA - for the symptom of profound boredom. It was (still is!) a demon that could rob you of joy and passion, suggesting there are better things to do with your time, more productive ways of living, other living situations that would better suit your superior skills and aptitudes.
The demon had to be eradicated. Otherwise, you would be on an endless quest for the new, the better, the perfect. And once you found it, you would be affected by acedia again, and search for even more new, better and perfect things to do. A vicious cycle of what becomes a fruitless pursuit in a self-centered universe. And we can't live on such a "high" all the time; it only leads to a greater let-down in the end.
The answer? Get to work!
The truth of life is simply this: what is in front of you RIGHT NOW is the most important thing you can do. Scrubbing a toilet? It's important for hygiene. Typing that ridiculous email? It's important for a longer chain of communication.
It's not all glitz and glamour, and being "in the know." It's about being human, contributing to the human community in a constructive, positive and life-giving way.
Facebook can wait. The latest news item can chill for a bit (after all, it wasn't that long ago that we only heard the news a couple of times a day!). Getting worried about global-level, really-can't-do-anything-about-it stuff all the time can only distract and depress.
Life is calling you right now. Here and now.
Put some actual love in what you're doing. And if you don't love what you're doing, do it with love for the people who will eventually benefit from it. (Getting to that job change is important, but right now you have something to do.)
Find meaning in the ordinary. It doesn't always have to be world-shaking.
“Just be yourself.”
Hmmm. I see a problem here.
If I’m always myself, how can I become better?
Humans can be selfish, and I can be selfish. I get defensive sometimes. I can wallow in self-pity. I can get hyper-opinionated. Heck, I can worry better than most people!
In other words, being myself only works when I’m looking at the “bright side” of my personality.
I have another idea: Don’t be yourself. Be the version of the person you want to be.
Just do things according to your better version. Imagine your life as a movie, and see yourself doing whatever that version of the person you want to be is doing. Then, go and do likewise.
When you want to do something like get defensive, make comparisons, or even wallow in self-pity, look at the version of the person you want to be. How would that person act?
This works because you’re getting out of your ego and the ego-centered universe you live in. You’re thinking clearly and realistically about who you want to be.
And your life gets better. And everyone else’s life gets better, too. After all, your life affects everyone else’s. Your choices impact everyone around you. You’re not some isolated individual; you’re in a living, breathing biosphere of community, whether you like it or not.
There’s enough anger and criticism to darken the world seven times over. Wouldn’t it be great if everyone worked on this?
Be the version of the person you want to be.
Or not. It’s up to you.
Growing up was strange, at least to some people. When I was a kid, I read books on spirits, alien abductions, mind-control, telepathy, psychokinesis, prophecy, etc. My imagination was a treasure-trove of incredible adventures, fantastic voyages, and amazing possibilities.
Unlike most people, I never really lost sight of those possibilities in life. After all, isn’t life full of mysteries? Isn’t it true that there are some things in life that we simply cannot explain away, no matter how hard we try?
I’ve never forgotten mystery and wonder. And my children are reminded of it every day.
It’s no wonder that I do what I do for a living. It’s all about the mystery of the mind, the complexity of our lives, and the utter simplicity of it all.
I love mystery, because the deeper you get into it, the deeper it gets. (The original meaning of mystery is from the Greek word “mysterion”, which means an infinitely growing reality whose depths can never be exhausted.)
I don't "make" mysteries, I just facilitate them. I’m the middle man in a very delicate process, because mysteries are based on what the audience brings to the table -- their knowledge, beliefs, opinions, life experience, etc. And my hope is that they'll have an experience of wonder, intrigue or mystery. Yes, even laughter is a mystery! (ever wonder why some comedians are funnier to you than others? You get the idea.)
I've been influenced by some amazing people, from Rod Serling and Alfred Hitchcock to Robin Williams and Jonathan Winters, and many in between. So I’ve learned ways to set the stage for good entertainment. And good mystery. And I'll use every tool or formula I can to make it happen.
My audiences often fall on a bell curve. Where people to the far left will always think I'm full of garbage. And those on far right will believe every word I say. I'm interested in the middle group. Those who like to laugh. Those who like to think. Those who may have been afraid of aliens or spirits, or at least interested...
I want you to experience a feeling. Like a comedy wants you to laugh, a drama wants you to cry, or a romantic comedy wants you to dive into a vat of chocolate ice cream . I want you to feel mystery.
I was doing a corporate show in northeast Iowa a few months ago, and I overheard a conversation that got me furious. The people at the table were talking about my show, before I went on, and they said, "Yeah, he's just a magician, nothing to worry about. Just a bunch of tricks."
Of course, after the show, he changed his tune, but that comment really got under my skin.
As I say in the "About" section of the website, I DON'T DO MAGIC TRICKS. I've seen other "mentalist" acts, with plenty of tricks up their sleeves, (And I've seen a few psychic swindlers doing the same thing). I know what they're doing (why do you duct tape your eyes shut anyway, just to read a piece of paper??? Just a bit silly.), and I avoid those approaches like the plague. No gimmicks, thank you very much.
I don't do tricks.
Yes, there's nothing supernatural that I do. I'm not possessed by a demon. I don't use secret devices. I don't used electronics (except a microphone, so you can hear me). I use abilities that we all have, just in an extra-special way. Study psychology, study people, learn from your elders, listen to your gut, and you can do it, too...with years of practice and dedication.
Behold the enigma of the mind. I can read your mind. I can influence your mind. All through connection, in an incredibly funny and amazing show!
Another great show on April 23rd in Ankeny, IA, at the Summer Youth Lock-In at Ankeny First United Methodist Church. What a fun group!
I had a great time last Saturday night (okay, it started at 1:30 AM) entertaining with a 90-minute show for the Post-Prom Party at Jefferson High School in Cedar Rapids, IA. Everyone had a blast! Below are a couple of very brief highlights. (They were also shocked at how fast I could hypnotize the group!) Enjoy the snippet!
The only way to really understand what it's like to read another person's mind is to experience it yourself!
Here's something you can try that will give you an "inside feeling" of what it's like to actually read someone's mind.
I do this exercise at many of my Ladies Night Parties and other events.
Find someone you can feel comfortable with for this experiment. Decide who will be the "reader," and who will be the "subject." Sit directly across from the person and join both hands. Take a few deep breaths together. As you take each breath, picture your minds becoming closer and closer together. Now relax for a few moments with this image of your joined minds.
The subject is to think about something...a color, animal, person's face....something specific. The subject then tells the reader the category of what they are thinking about (animal, person, color, etc.).
The reader then relaxes and lets images flow through her mind, getting intuitive hints as to what the subject is concentrating on. Let the images, sounds, or insights flow together and take a stab at what the subject is thinking. Say it out loud, and check if you are wrong, close, or spot-on.
Then switch roles and do the experiment again.
This should give you a feel of how much information is going on in my own mind, when I am reading someone else!
What exactly does it mean to let go?
Granted, I can't really stand the term, after hearing the song "Let It Go" being sung time after time by my four daughters! Yet, I find that it is a message that often must be given time and again for my clients.
Let go of expectations.
Let go of old relationship patterns.
Let go of the toxic memories that are affecting your present-day blessings.
Much of the reason for the confusion around letting go, has to do with the misinterpretation of the term. Most of the time, letting go is confused with forgetting. It's as if letting go of something means that it should be entirely obliterated from my mind...no memories, no pain, nothing.
Yet the truth is far from this "blank mind" approach. Letting go means that I choose to not be sucked-in to the story and emotional energy that swirls around it, like a seductive and deadly vortex. If I let go of a past relationship, it doesn't mean that I've forgotten (or tried to forget - good luck!) about the relationship. Memories will still surface, and emotions may still well-up for years to come.
I choose instead to recognize these memories and emotions for what they truly are: memories and past imprints. They do not need to define who I am right now in this moment. I can choose differently. I can choose to live a new life, an entirely different life of my choosing. Yes, the memories or emotions will surface from time to time, but I will simply notice them and move forward, without being sucked into their vortex.
You see, when we get sucked into the vortex, we find out...there's nothing there. It's just an unending tunnel of memories and emotions that dig deeper and deeper into a well of anger and resentment. It's not freedom; it's prison.
So when I recognize that (a) I'm tempted to go into that vortex, or (b) I've been sucked into the vortex, I can stop, recognize it as the Nothing that it is, and let it go.
The power of letting go means that I choose freedom. It means that I choose to be a powerful, wonderful, fully-alive Self, rather than a slave of the past.
Is it easy?
No, it takes practice.
And it is in the doing that we get better and better at letting go. At releasing what had once bound us. At embracing the freedom that once eluded us. At becoming who we truly are: a fully magnificent, alive and empowered Self.
That is the power of letting go.